a quick update, I just got a call from my W. She was talking to the bank and found out that we will have to pay penalties to break the mortgage and re negotiate it. Then the one who takes the house will have to take a loan and pay the other off. In the long run this may help me she says she can't afford the mortgage and a loan. I f I take the house I retain the great interest rate we had and I can pay the loan off as fast as possible getting back to a good monthly payment. We are both deciding and the more I think about it this may be a great deal.
Also I will still be close enough to be available but won't run into her if she is dating. At least we are both talking and it is showing her that we can work together. Hopefuly it remains calm and she we will both feel that we got a fair deal leaving the door open for positive contact without bitterness because we worked together to come up with a solution! I think once this is done I can focus on me and hopefully be a better divorce buster. I must remember ,like you said this is a separation not the end!
I will post an update as to an outcome!
Jeff out!
ME 44 W 32 M 5 T 6
no kids
June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
