dealing with infidelity after R

[garyjlost]

Thanks, Puppy. I appreciate the response.

Since the reconciliation, I have no evidence of my wife contacting the OM by phone. However, she did leave her e-mail program open and I saw the subject line of a message from this guy, which said "thinking of you." I didn't probe any further. I don't know what the guy's message said. But apparently he isn't gone entirely. He's still hanging around in some capacity. Maybe she's responding to his e-mail messages. I don't know. But no, I have no direct evidence that they have had contact.

So I guess I should wait and continue working on the intimacy as you suggested.

However, I also know she wants to go out partying with friends. But she has a problem with alcohol. She makes bad decisions when she's out drinking. Things happen. So I feel like I need to make it clear that I should be involved in any of her nights out. Not sure if she'll buy that ...

Any one have experience in situations like this? With a wife who wants to go out partying with friends? Should I be trusting?

But I'm afraid trust has let me down too many times.