Exactly my stand on this. I do not bad mouth my W at all. My D17 does though and I always tell her not to. I know I can' protect her and I am fairly certain that whatever is eating at her has to do with her mom and she doesn't want to tell me.
I am feeling that she is feeling left out. I spend so much time dealing with myself that sometimes I forget about her. I am going to take her into town saturday for the day. Just walk around, check out the Xmas stuff have lunch. She's never really done that and I know boston like the backof my hand. It will be a surprise for her, just us.
My brother just asked me where I am with regard to my W. I said I am in another level, scared to be here and happy to be here. I do not get upset by her, although the thoughts of her and OM do piss me off (sorry for the language). But in general I have more pity than anything and I am in a place that is not so quick to say I will take her back. Its sad to say that, but it is where I am.
