It is just hard for me to draw that line. To meet him at the door and say "You need to stay out as long as you are acting this way and cannot commit". I was all fired up last night, even told him to get out, then S6 came upstairs and climbed on my lap and hugged me goodnight and I looked in his trusting, loving little eyes. I feel like I am taking his world away. I KNOW I didn't, I KNOW H did, but taking "the plunge" and following through is scary for me.
Does not matter if we say he is broken..He is broken..he's F**Ked up in my opinion.
IMO Dan will continue to do as he is doing..for as long as BBJ allows it or it gets so unbearable in that house that he has to leave. Right now it's not unbearable for him..He's probably not even truly spinning.
It's all a wishy washy mess IMO..
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I keep thinking he will either shape up or move out
and what would make you think Dan would have a lightbulb moment.??. There's no reason for him too..he does the same every day..there is no change..work, farm, kids..no BBJ..work, farm, cattle, kids, no BBJ..work, farm, travel for work, kids, mom/dad, Tom..no BBJ..it's all here in black and white..no change
It's pretty clear by reading this board that the greatest chance for any reconciliation is for the LBS to truly move on..truly detach..truly make their own life..and then what happens?? a lot of times the WAS attempts to come back..
so broken, yes..it's all screwed up..he is..everyone is..all these sitches are..sometimes you just have to make a decision..Pull the trigger and go with it..around here where I live we say "either chitt or get off the pot"
