Giving up when not sure if it's WAW, MLC or both?

[AlexEN]

Okay, but riddle me this, how can I validate when she doesn't want to talk about her emotions (can't face them) doesn't want to talk about the R (she's "done"; "you know what I want, a divorce"), so there's nothing really to "validate", as there are no R discussions and, as I understand DBing, I'm not supposed to bring up R talk. It's surreal.