I think you get so much good advice here that I scarcely feel a need to say anything. One thing I have been thinking about recently is the idea of 'living in the now'. Sometimes, we worry too much about the future, and the past too. Find joy in the Now! Because now is all we truly have.
The future is a fluid substance --- your H may or may not crash and burn, the OW may or may not dump him, and so forth. One can make assumptions based on the past (which is dead and gone), but truly, you cannot know for a certaintly what will happen. Plan for the worst, hope for the best, but live positively in the present. There is always something positive to be found --- a beautiful sunset, a child's smile, etc.
I think, however, you know all this, but feel overwhelmed sometimes by all that has happened. Just take it one day at a time.
Thinking of ya, and keeping up with your sitch.
PS Hope the weather out there isn't too bad. We are driving to Illinois (36 hour drive) to visit D28 and I am hoping there won't be too much snow on the way. Yikes!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
