I know you are tired, Hope. I'm just saying that anytime you write her a note about your feelings she has responded well. You haven't talked about anything yet. Forget the drastic move...start with a talk.....
I know you have said you will talk first and then the move. But, the move just seems to be the big thing rather than the talk and that just seems backwards to me. And, I think you are going to do both at the same time.
You want her to move back to you other than at vacation time. WHy not talk about the fact that she is different? She talks about the future with you, etc. so she is not planning on leaving.....you have to talk about these things and your feelings and be open to her feelings. DOn't judge each other on the feelings, but work to resolve them together. Don't think to yourself "if she doesn't do x, I will move without her". Think if she is not doing x, we better talk about this and see why.
