When this all began, I didn't want to destroy my marriage, because I still had small children. I didn't want to see them grow up in a single-parent household.
-- This refers to her so-called possible lesbian affair you built up in your head, right? Again, excuse me but I am going to say in a quite stentorian voce: "BS!
You did not forgive her. Your lingering resentment is quite clear. STOP being so damne dself righteous. Did you confront her with your discovery? Did you verbalize this so-called "indisputable" evidence?
No. I thought not. You "threwe away" the "evidence." Hence resentment. Hence her feeling an ill wind from you probably.
Mrp,she may have actually felt respect for you had you taken her to task with your so-called indisputable affair evidence.
-Stigmata-
I did confront her about this evidence, about 3 weeks ago. She did not deny that it was in her posession. She claims that it was given to her, but was never used, and doesn't even recall who gave it to her.
Her story just doesn't hold water. I'm sorry, but if someone gave you some gay paraphenelia, would you remember who it was?
I suspect that this person is someone who is close to our family - very close. I also suspect that my wife is trying to protect that person, who is also married.
Yes, I realize now I should have confronted my wife about this 11 years ago. Bad choice. Bad decision. Now I need to live with the consequences.
