Thanks Mike! (And Sara) I am looking into getting myself a massage over Christmas break. Not some back-of-the-hair-salon massage, I am talking going to a spa, having the lights off, smelly lotions/oils, that weird meditation music, etc etc...and maybe a pedicure. Yeah, that's the ticket!
I am feeling a little sheepish about yesterday with H. I really let him have it at one point, told him to just get out. Went on a rant about how he had no respect for his marriage vows, he promised me in front of God that he would be there for better or worse and now he was breaking that vow and proud of himself. He jumped right back with "No, not proud of myself at all..." Anyway I lost it a little but oh well I guess I had been holding it in for quite a while....
Then he wound up helping me off the couch and holding me for a bit before bed.....he hasn't touched me for like a month. I mean, literally, hasn't touched me in four weeks except the night I climbed on him and that was initiated by me....this was the first time he voluntarily touched me. I don't expect he will change his mind but I want him to stop the blame game and realize this is his doing........
Thanks Mike! (And Sara) I am looking into getting myself a massage over Christmas break. Not some back-of-the-hair-salon massage, I am talking going to a spa, having the lights off, smelly lotions/oils, that weird meditation music, etc etc...and maybe a pedicure. Yeah, that's the ticket!
I've always heard those were the bomb. Never been myself. I always heard Kim and her best friend talk about some massage where they use hot rocks?? and how great that was..
Thanks Mike! (And Sara) I am looking into getting myself a massage over Christmas break. Not some back-of-the-hair-salon massage, I am talking going to a spa, having the lights off, smelly lotions/oils, that weird meditation music, etc etc...and maybe a pedicure. Yeah, that's the ticket!
Dont forget to get a mud bath too!
My W sure likes the massage, but I had it once in Thailand for an hour and it is not my cup of tea. I just felt uncomfortable with a strange guy working over my body. And had it been a girl massuese, it would have been difficult to not make a towel tent.
Bobbijo, I sympathize with the live in frustrations you are having. I think that it will be easier if he is out on his own.
I think what bothers me the most about your H is the way he does whatever he wants, but hangs his head and says, "I feel bad about what I am doing" so you and the rest of the world won't punish him. He is so childish. Perhaps this was his method of getting out of trouble with his doting mother. If he showed remorse for the bad stuff, then there was no punishment. But his excuse, "I had to do it because the voices in my head told me to" is ridiculous. He is not some possessed zombie in a movie. No aliens came down and stole his freewill. He is just a spoiled, self-centered, hedonist trying to take pleasure from the world with both hands and not caring who gets hurt along the way.
"I had to do it because the voices in my head told me to" is ridiculous. He is not some possessed zombie in a movie. No aliens came down and stole his freewill. He is just a spoiled, self-centered, hedonist trying to take pleasure from the world with both hands and not caring who gets hurt along the way.
I'm sorry..I have to ROTFLMAO..I know it's not funny really..I'm laughing at the comparisions..and how true that statement is..
Thanks, Jeff. I forgot about the part where I called him Darth Vader (oops)
I merely pointed out that he too has a way of letting his fear/anger/pride/desire for power over his life take over and it leads to bad decisions.........
He must not have been too offended b/c that was before he helped me up and hugged me before bed...
