Hi there John - this was my W's idea - so I take no credit for it whatsoever!
She thought of a mutual friend, one that S6 sees fairly regularly and asked her if she would mind being S6's "Safe Person" - it brought tears to my eyes when we first talked about it and it still does - to think that our little boy would ever hurt so much to need someone like that...but this person was actually thrilled to be asked - as much as you can be under the circumstances, and I know takes her role seriously.
Is there anyone like that you and your W could ask - I think the counsellor idea is great but it might be that your D also needs something a little "less obvious"
Thinking of you John...GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years