I know that she has to be loyal to her daughter but does that require a complete break like this when we were so close before? If I had been the one having an affair, or if I had not been the one trying so hard to keep things together, I guess I could understand. It is going to be awkward picking the kids up tomorrow because that will be the first time I've seen them since 07/07 and first time I've spoken to them since June. I know that if the shoe had been on the other foot, and I had treated my X the way she treated me, my Dad would be checking with her constantly to see if there was anything that he could do.
As bad as I hate to say this, I think I see where a good portion of my X's disfunction and avoidance comes from. Her father is a piece of work and has always been very rough on those around him. Now all three of their children have the initiaters of at least one divorce and are not exactly good models for fathers/mothers/husbands/wives.
Steve..it seems like lines get drawn in the sand in these things and it's hard to keep that from happening. Not one thing you can do about it..
