JWM
Sorry to see you in this situation.
I was where you are now couple months ago except I never reached an agreement with my W before she left.
Your W is only one can decide 'No contact' to the OM. There are so many ways she can keep the contacts going without you knowing, new phone, new email...etc.
Sorry I can't be much help here, but just want to let you know.
You are not alone...
You can get through this no matter what.
You are strong for yourself and D7

NW626


Me:33 STBXW:38 S:3
It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you fight the fight....!!