{{LE}} Man I'm so sorry that you had to be alone like that and, you are so right, it's totally NOT fair that she made the choices and you end up on the "losing" end of the stick..I am sorry and I wish there was something I could do more than a cyber hug and a prayer..of course there isn't..LOL..but I wish I could!
Just know that your kids certainly missed you too and they know how much you love them and all that you are doing in this sitch!
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
hc--thanks for the support. I wish my W would understand the pain of D and realize the pain she is causing our kids. I don't care about myself so much, but it hurts me too. Sorry you are here. I can't imagine your pain if you are in a verbally abusive relationship. You have good friends here though. Look to breakaway and her threads for a kindred spirit! Good luck!
M42 S12/D9 T17/M12 Bomb 1 3/22/06 Bomb 2 7/11/08 Bomb 3 7/31/08 W Filed 8/1/08 D granted 12/17/08 D Finalized 1/29/09
A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
I did some soul searching yesterday and tried to list the reasons why I love my W. All I could really come up with was 1. She was the mother of my children. and 2. She's beautiful.
I couldn't think of one other intrinsic value in her that I loved. So I think I've been in love more with the idea of an intact family other than a relationship with her. You understand?
At this moment, I would have to agree that it is tough to come up with more than 2 reasons to love the wife.
Unless you truly think this is who your wife really is, then there are probably many other reasons you would like to keep your relationship with her - she just isn't displaying those qualities currently.
Tom--I missed this! I guess you were posting at the same time I was. I have asked myself ever since a friend of mine pointed out to me that all my comments to him were about my family, not my W. I wasn't missing my W, just my family. To making's point, I could probably find reasons why, but maybe the reason's why not would number greater. I was talking to my cohort here in the office tonight about this very thing, how she just treats people so rudely sometimes, and makes really obnoxious comments. That has been a turn-off for a long time. Another friend pointed that out to me a few weeks ago when he and my W had a run-in and she let him have it. He said he knew she was like a teenager at that point, just lives by her emotions. So probably I am missing my family moreso than just missing her. I saw a picture of her a few weeks ago in the paper and she just looked awful and not very attractive even. I thought about that goofy movie "Shallow Hal," where he see people for what they are, and the nurse looked all haggard and that scene came to mind.
M42 S12/D9 T17/M12 Bomb 1 3/22/06 Bomb 2 7/11/08 Bomb 3 7/31/08 W Filed 8/1/08 D granted 12/17/08 D Finalized 1/29/09
A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
oh LE. i am so sorry!! right now, i totally understand the wanting the family, a REAL family. to preserve it. I still wish you had come here lol.
wish I could make it better for us all, wish that was gods plan for our pain.
you are an inspiration to so many, and such a good father. you make me believe in good men.
hugs
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Hey, LE!!! Hope your trip was good. Glad you survived the holiday...so, did I! And, the anniversary...mine 12th was in September. I got a TM, but in hindsight...it really wasn't a very nice one!!! So, maybe no acknowledgement was actually better.
Just keep hanging in there...you are doing fine...atleast from the outside looking in!
Hugs to you this morning! Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
Amy..good point about the anniversary..I spent mine with my hub, and it was still a weird day and certainly wasn't a nice one by any stretch of the imagination LOL..so I think any way we spend our anniversaries during this is gonna just be crummy..
So..LE..how are YOU tonight?
Tawnya
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