Wow. Great advice! My daughters are hurting. They watched me almost check out permanently. They've watched their mother be a "booty call" for her boss, who is still married. They lived without me in their lives for 18 months, with 12 of it being in the cauldron of Iraq at the absolutely worst time to be there. It's Christmas, and there are only three of the five stockings on the fireplace. I saw it yesterday. Ughh.
I'm not in a good place today. My STBX is relentless.
I get the contract stuff, but if D18 is NOT in school, there's NOTHING out there for her. Do we focus on the negatives or the As and Bs? I choose the As and Bs.
A divorce, however, may change where she goes to school. Part of the $4200 I give to STBX goes to her tuition. It's $24K a year. She got accepted into UMASS and UCONN, but didn't want to go to either! Both were cheaper than where she goes in NH! She may have to feel the financial sting of the divorce by transferring. Not my first choice, but..........
