Wife have moved out with my son..........now what

[nw626]

Hi Sandi
Sorry to late response.
I got my son this week. Normally he is staying with her or MIL. They are 6 HRs drive away in diff state.
I just realize I have so much free time when my S is not here...LOL
I am enjoying every minutes that we have together.
I think you are right about my W.
She is using (http://www.experienceproject.com/). I think the web site was designed for good purposes, but don't think she is using for the right reason per sake.
The OM is in and out her life. When the OM is not around, I think she will get the quick fix (Phone/Internet) from one of her 'Friends' that are within her circle. I am not sure how frequent but it is not my business anyway. I guess I am detaching little better now. I don't even see her as my W now, just a friend that is a downward spiral. She will not wake up until she hit rock bottom. Who knows when that will be...??
I am guessing even the OM is gone for good. She will still need to go through the grieving period. Then she will try to find 'NEW' OM, and I probably am the last person she even thinks about.
There are days I wish I can end this, file for D and fight full custody for my S. Then again, I made her the promise, better or worse.

One question:
We do Christmas party with her family every year. She did invited me the other day. I think I am going because I want to see her plus may be she can pick up some of my self improvements.
This will be the first time we meet since September.
Should I even buy her Christmas gift? I am guessing she will. She is really big on buying gifts.

I also will talk to her this week about keeping my S here with me. I think I can provide him a better environment overall. She and MIL are both bipolar. My W is staying with FIL and he does have the 'Flavor of the week' going on sometimes because he's been singled forever. MIL's house is really small.

I am not intended to use my son as leverage to make her come back. I just want the best for my S. I hope she can see it this way.

This is such a tough ride...

NW626