When she tells you her foggy decisions, what do you say? I would suggest very short statements such as, "I love you, you are my wife, the mother of our child, and I take that all very seriously. It is worth going to counseling, retrovaille, etc. before making such a decision that will affect our family the rest of our lives."
SHe is either in contact or in major withdrawal. If it is just withdrawal, if you can get her to stay as she goes through it, it will lessen. She didn't give a "no contact" letter to the OM so it makes withdrawal even harder....she still has that hanging in her mind.
The on and off ring thing......she is still undecided....Or, more worried about what others think so puts it on at particular times.
