Thanks, SD. The holidays are particularly bad, and this weekend ended horribly.
I'm pretty sure D18 broke into STBXs home over the weekend and took some of D16's cosmetics. STBX asked me to address it with her. I found a pair of tweezers I thought was stolen, and returned it to D16.
D18 vehemently denied it. Now what? A pair of tweezers. STBX stated that if D18 enters the house again, she'll have her arrested. STBX asked me to call her regarding the results. I had a 4 hour drive to take D18 back to school, and a 4 hour ride back, so I didn't immediately call her.
STBX calls with about an hour left in my drive, and asked what happened. I told her.
She then launched into "20 questions" about D18 "following the contract she set up as a pre-rquisite to go to college"
Has she been following it? Not from the standpoint of going to AA meetings or seeing the counselor in the counseling center, who she hates. SHE APPARENTLY HAS As AND Bs IN EVERYTHING, which is what I choose to look at. Yes. She signed a contract, but I prefer to concentrate on the positive; The As and Bs.
STBX then launches into "Well, is it or is it not a contract? You just don't not follow a contract, you renegotitate (You mean like your marriage "contract"?)
I say I prefer to concentrate on the grades, which are tangible proof of something going right. I said I'm not willing to stop supporting her because she isn't going to counseling or AA.
She then launchs into "not wanting her money going to keep D18 in a place where she's not living up to her contract"
I pointed out most of the tuition is my money. She then launches into "I only have the money because SHE supported me in my career ambitions". UNCLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I then called D18 (mistake) to tell her she needs to follow the contract or her mother is not going to pay her portion of he tuition. I SHOULD HAVE JUST SHUT MY MOUTH!
I WAS/AM FUMING!!!!!!!!! TO TOP IT OFF, MEDIATION CONTINUES TODAY. HELP! I need some quick advice. STBX is relentless, and I still let her push my buttons.
