Giving up when not sure if it's WAW, MLC or both?

[AlexEN]

Can't remember which thread it was in (see Trapt, Sandi, et. al., now I'v even confused myself by posting in several places!), but I was thinking about this whole validating thing I'm supposed to do while I'm working on me... Seems the only thing that she really wants validated is me agreeing with her that we should get a divorce. Surely, the validating can't extend to starting to go down that path with her. Sure, I can validate that I understand that's how she feels, but it doesn't mean I want to start going down that path cooperatively, does it? I still cringe when she is so B&W about things and refers to "when we tell the kids", etc...

-AlexEN