John, that is so hard to see the kids in such emotional pain. I remember having a real hard time holding back the tears when my son was sobbing on the floor when he learned that his mother was not coming home.
It does kind of boost your PMA to know that she looks to you when she is hurting. You should look for a book to help her cope and understand divorce.
It is pretty hard to be amicable when little ones are crying because of our wayward wives path in life.