And I'm Still Learning

[Tawnya]

The crying thing sounds good to me, I am a "super cryer" too..I know basically it's a good release for your body for sure.

Beth..none of us know exactly what we are doing about this most of the time..I mean that's why we cling to each other and to the DB book, because it makes sense, because it gives us hope, because we need something to help us thru this crazy, chaotic time we never expected to have!

As far as the rings go..I dunno about that one..I mean it is tough to accept something you don't want to accept..but, it could be a combo of the holiday, the rings, life in general, the dreary day..

Do I think this is smoke and mirrors until you can't deny it? No..because really you've NOT denied the fact that a) your marriage, as you know it, is done NOT to say you can't have another marriage with your same husband, but better, so you don't end up back here in the first place. b) you have figured out you can't change your spouse, so the only person you can change is YOU..taking care of you, finding what works and doesn't work for YOU..

I know I'm probably not helping too much, but don't lose sight of the fact of how far you've COME forward just because of having a down day..give yourself a break..you can pass thru the "self pity land" but just don't camp out there

Tawnya