And Amy, you know I love your perspective, your honesty, and your caring, but I flat out disagree with you when you throw about statements like
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This sounds like you're saying she should have stayed to make you happy and just allowed herself to remain miserable.
Amy, she was 'miserable' because she felt helpless and a victim. As our counselor said, she could have decided to be 'happy' and keep the marriage together, keep the kids happy. I never did anything to stop her from doing what she wanted to do. Never.
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All of that being said, I'm very much in agreement with Amy when she states that you Frank are still not to the point of indifference yet. And part of the reason this is still a problem is that you refuse to separate your two lives to the point where your wife can no longer participate in the home she chose to walk away from.
You WANT her around. And so you allow it.
And I do think you want her around because you ARE hoping that you will one day get that arms-thrown-around-your-neck profession of love from her. You have to continue working on cutting that need and slowly but surely allowing her to go. At the same time Frank needs to begin moving forward in some tangible way with his life with his girls.
