On to our boy Dano.... Here's my take, he loves you. He doesn't love himself. Sex with little hotties and prostitutes doesn't make him happy. The bad ass new truck... nope. The prize cow... nope. Cool new tractor... nope. Wow, since he isn't happy something has to be the problem. It can't be him. He is too much of a man. Afterall look at his bad ass truck, chicks he nails on the side and that cool tractor. Therefore it has to be BBJ.. Except it isn't. So he picks a fight to make you the bad guy. He had to make you the bad guy because it sure as sh*t can't be him.
$290 at an Italian place on Long Beach... WTF is wrong with him, I will never understand...
Could it be that Dan wants to get caught? Did I read this correctly, he is spending $290 on a meal while allegedly away on business and uses a personal credit card?
Guys, the $290 dinner was back in June, the trip when I was suspicious she was out there and then I found out for sure she was. So it is a non-issue now. I was just entering those bank statements in the computer so I saw it...it is in the past but it still sucks.
I am so not surprised by anything that you are going through, Bobbiejo. Your husband is continuing the crazy tune and you are dancing to it. He "can't make up his mind", yet, if you make a move to try to get any kind of decision, he gets to say that you "pushed him into it".
I was in the same place. Everything is always going to be "your fault" because it is a trap that your H sets up. Mine did the same thing. It didn't matter what the answer was, it was just "wrong". Nothing will please him. Nothing.
I don't know where we are today. We had a bit of an ugly one yesterday, he was being grumpy with S6 and I called him on it once S left the room, told H if he was that miserable in the house get the he!! out rather than take it out on S6.
He said that S6 had been screwing around the whole dinner time (true) and that I let him do all the disciplining (true) and he really wanted me to back him up/help him out. He was tired of being the bad guy all the time. I told him I thought we had split that up and when I 'had' the kids I was the "bad guy" but when he was there he was the bad guy. I said if we are a team then I know what to do but since you don't want to be a team anymore I am not sure how we do this stuff anymore...he again said how nothing ever changes.
I had had it at that point with 'nothing ever changes'. I rattled off five/six things I had changed in the past 6 months. Then I point-blank asked H, "What have you changed for me in the past year? What have you done differently to please me?"
He looked at me and said, "Nothing". I said, "Exactly. And I am bending over backward trying to please you and make you happy. And you aren't doing any of the things I want from you. Yet you are the angry one...when we get married, it is for better or worse, till death do us part, we don't quit b/c we don't have everything we want..."
At that point S came back upstairs so we quit, but agreed that we would talk about "things" after the kids were in bed, to finally sort this out and make it happen.
After I got D in bed (she is harder to put to bed than S) I came out on the couch. Return of the Jedi was on, it has been star wars week at our house. Anyway I lay down on the couch and H says "F&%k!" I said, "What." H says he left his laptop in his truck at his parents and he has to go get it.
I said, "OK, go get it, we will talk when you get back then?"
He says, "Well, ok, fine then" like he was surprised I mentioned it.
I said, "I really cannot believe we are getting a divorce over me being annoying. Is that what you will tell your friends? I divorced BBJ b/c she annoyed me?"
H said, "That's not it........" I can't remember the rest b/c I was so tired but he acted sad about everything as usual.
H came home, I was asleep but I heard him come in then I went back to sleep. A couple minutes later (I think) he came to the couch and tapped me. Put his hand out to me, pulled me up off the couch. I said, "You should have woken me up" He said, "I did, and now you are going to bed", he lifted me up to standing and I was inches from him. He leaned toward me and I just put my body against him and leaned on him. He put his chin down on the top of my head and rubbed my back.
I said, "I hate this" He said, "I know" I said, "This is not what I want" He said, "I know". Then I pulled back, said goodnight, and went to sleep.........
