When there is a discussion about something, as hard as it is my sitch, I try to work in as many "we's" as possible....especially if it is in reference to things that have been let go, or overlooked for a while....trying to never imply that she was solely responsible for something either, or both of us could have taken care of.
"We" sounds nice. I see my H trying that more..though sometimes it's still just him saying whatever it is he's going to do and just saying "we" instead of "I." But it's a step in the right direction as he is beginning to consider that we ARE a we!!! LOL. And he's seeing a lot of things as being both of our responsibilities and not just mine, especially if it's something that was his idea in the first place.
