How do I get past this point? Is it impossible until W & OM have problems?
Sounds like you did good! I know what you mean. I did wind up being ok this long weekend by doing volunteer work though. Thinking I'll try to keep doing more of that. You help others and yourself at the same time & keeps your mind off the kids a little too.
I don't know if they have to develop problems in their A, but suppose that helps. It does seem from my time spent here and people in my "real" life that sometimes the WAS just kind of wakes up and realizes the grass isn't greener or whatever. Is it always problems with the OP that starts that? I don't know...
Re: the parent-child thing--I actually think in my M we took turns being the parent and the child. I spent too much time focusing on the kids and I think treated H as a 3rd kid sometimes in the way I would relate to him. And a lot of times he'd relate to me like a critical parent. I've been trying to be more assertive about that, and really just trying to have adult-adult interactions with him this year, although it can be really difficult. I think the better you do at the better for you and your W. Karen
