As you mentioned, you don't know what happend with OM. In those cases, I have personally chosen to assume the best. To assume the worst just makes me a lesser person.
Besides, the EA makes more sense to me anyway. Her aunt is dying and she wants emotional support. I know you wish that she would reach out to you... but that isn't the case right now. So she is near OM and they are typically good at providing emotional support. So she meets him and they chat or have dinner.
Going the next step and hopping into bed for a wild fling while aunt is dying doesn't make sense to me. Not impossible... but seems not to fit the situation very well.
Your imagination can really make things painfull for you at this point. I urge you to have the mental disipline to take the high road. Heck, nothing even says they had a romantic conversation. He probably just gave condolences about aunt and perhaps wife bitched about you some.
My thread, Carpe Diem #4 Orig Thread: Carpe Diem #1
