I think my situation may be similar to yours. H and I have been together 12 years, married 10. He left me in August. I have been DBing since October and have had moderate success.
Not sure we are in the friendship stage yet. My DB coach calls the first stage "getting to neutral" you know, getting H to realize meetings with me will be calm and not involve relationship talk. He has emailed me a couple of times and has asked me to lunch once, two weeks ago. I looked good, was very calm, talked about my GAL activities and have not heard from him since. He looked horrid. My coach says this is to be expected. Spouse will apparently retreat after a positive encounter.
Anyway, I think the friendship thing can work, even with men because we were more than just friends once weren't we. I think if they see that the basic friendship connection/draw is still there, then the attraction will come back.
Your post seems to indicate that your H is having a MLC. I am pretty certain mine has depression. That is something else we could talk about.
Anyway, just wanted to chime in and let you know we may have a bit in common. My thread is in Newcomers - it's called "And I'm Still Learning" in case you want to check it out. Sorry, I am terrible at linking.
