I need some advice as to what to do next. My H had EA which began in 05/08, began to behave distant and said it was work problems etc and then told me in 08/08 he wanted to divorce as he had fallen in love with someone else. He has not been interested in any talks and wants divorce. I have been DB and talking to Cheryl. I went dark 2 months ago and he moved all his belongings out a month ago and moved in with OW. He kept getting in touch initally when I went dark but I only responded to financial things. I have not heard any thing from him for about a month and then last tweek he got in touch by e-mail
He wanted to know if he could come round and download music on my PC to his laptop as he had just bought one now. He also asked what was happening with the divorce. I replied with a date that was convenient for him to come round. I told him I had sent the divroce papers and he needs to check with his lawyer as to the next step. His mail still cmes here so I asked him to re-direct it. He replied with ok. He came round yesterday and was very nervous around me. Might be because he still cares about me or he doesn't know how I will react to anything (he has already said he finds me unpredictable). Anyway I tried to do a 180 and kept quiet and agreed with him rather then try to have chats and try to reason with him. He wanted me to sort some things out for him which I did and he said he appreciated that.
He didn't seem keen on leaving but I didn't initiate any talks etc and he said see you around. He still didn't leave the keys to the flat as I had previsously asked him to do. I have been dark for 2 months and do not know when the right time to come back is. I spoke to a fellow DB 2 weeks ago and I thought I was done with DB but when I saw him I realised I still love him and now I don't know what to do. If I stay dark then I know that I will not want him back as my feelings are already fading but I don't want to jump back in as it was too painful and the reason I went dark was to let myself heal ( which has happened - I no longer react) and also to stop pursing which I have always done.
