Alison, if it makes you feel any better I have never managed to get a family picture and I would have loved one, but it never worked out.
Isn't it funny how what appears to be a harmless task (ie pics) suddenly seems to explode.
Mantra...It will get better...it will get better.. I won't say one day you will look back and laugh but one day it will not hold such importance or sadness. I know it feels like you are trying to hold your family together single handedly and they are all pulling against you. you have to understand that right now they don't want to be a family unit, with or without your h at home I guess they might be much the same. It is the way and age they are.
Just let it go, just be mum and get on with your life (whilst not neglecting them)maybe suggest things to them before you do it, just to get a feel of the mood.Maybe say something like I was thinking of doing a special lunch on Sunday, anyone going to be around, if not I,ll just leave you something and go shopping. Not a very good suggestion but I hope you see what I mean.
There are times when being "mum" is a thankless task but it will go full circle and you will end up best friends.
