Creeping through no man's land

[BeingMe]

Oh, ACJ, my heart goes out to you because I know the pain our children can cause us. It hits so much deeper than the pain our H's can cause. But, as naej says, it will get better. Your children are at that age when they want to be independent, but not old enough really (except D18 who is barely old enough t be on her own). It doesn't help to be going through a divorce now. This is the time when parents should be showing a united front, but your H thinks he is one of the teens seeking independence. When they're older, and real life starts showing itself, then they will remember mom, and all she did for them. Let the picture go. Have one done of you and your girls. Why not! Try not to invest too much (esp. emotionally) into this sort of thing --- rather, try and get to spend as much time with each of them as much as possible, without seeming desperate. It's like DBing --- it's starting to work with my D21, although she's still being hurtful (anyway, that's a long story, and an extremely painful one). Just know that they, unlike your H, have an excuse for their behaviour --- their brains have not yet completely grown (so they have a physiological excuse) - it is only complete at 25years or so. Plus there's the hormones and dealing with the father who abandoned them, and you have a situation that is bound to have explosive moments. All you can do is minimize the damage, and let it go. Try, anyway. (((((ACJ)))))

You are so lucky to still have your parents, especially your dad, with you. My parents passed away a long time ago, and my dad was my hero too. Strangely, I dreamt about him last night and feel kinda teary today.