I screwed up again

[AnotherNightmare]

SB,

Thank you for a lot of insight. I think I am already pretty good at not letting my emotions take a ride with me, at least in front of her. It takes all my strength, but I think I have that under control.

I like your point about setting boundaries. It was her who talked about integrity when she dropped the bomb, so maybe a friendly reminder just like yours will not hurt.

One of the things I realize after only one week of being alone with the kids at home: I do not need her for any of the daily stuff. I can cook, wash up, clean my clothes, deal with the kids (with her gone, they are actually much easier to deal with), even clean the house, which she left in a mess. I set up and decorated the Christmas tree. I just feel good about these things.

I am definitely thinking too much about her and not enough about myself. After reading a lot of other threads, detachment is a process that will take a while. I have embarked on that journey, but I am still at the very beginning.

AN