It's almost like "this is the life" in their distorted way of thinking. Everytime you pull away, you get questioned about being angry or difficult, then comes the trap or arguement that feeds their justification. Don't fall into it.
She will get angry when you pull away. Your not right were she left you. This is were being calm and quiet and showing her kindness no matter what will be tough. You can do it.
I don't know how long her anger will last when you pull away, but the way you act toward her projections will play a part in it.
I go back and forth with this too, you don't want to rock the boat but at the same time the cycle of "best of both worlds" has to be broken, but in a kind way.
