Well, the ex and I just had one of the longest talks we’ve had since the “I want a divorce” talk. Here is a brief recap and I’m sure I’m forgetting something.
She is sorry I’ve had “a bad year”. She knows she caused a lot of my hurt in the past year. She doesn’t want me to move. She said the kids need me and she knows that more than ever now. She doesn’t want to move the kids. They are doing so well in school, have great friends and are very happy.
But, she will move them and come with me if I move far enough away that I won’t be able to see the kids often. The one condition is that I take a job where I’ll be home enough to spend quality and quantity time with the kids.
I asked about her life here. She said that there isn’t anything serious enough to stay here for her. Nick isn’t enough of a reason to stay. I was shocked. I had thought they were serious. She said that she really doesn’t have a social life here and all of her friends abandoned her with the divorce (I knew this already). And she can’t find a job here at all.
We talked about what’s next. About timing and how everything would come together. We talked about how she is happier now than she has been in the past few years and how she was miserable before the divorce/separation. She said it wasn’t me that made her miserable, she just was unhappy and needed to do something completely different to change her life. She said that she wants me to be happy and knows that losing the kids would make me miserable.
We both agreed that we want to do what’s right for the kids. Whether it’s moving or not moving we will figure that out when we know what’s happening with my job. And there where I might go next.
I have to say that it’s nice to know that she still believes in me. She wasn’t angry or sad. She is concerned about me and more importantly the kids. And she told me I’m a great dad…..
