Man, your H is SO confusing. I actually think he's worse than my H and CEO combined for confusing behaviour, which is really saying something!
I love that you experimented with something different and asked him to do something with you, and it's so frustrating that he didn't take the bait. I'm not sure that filing for D is the answer though ( ). Do you think that inviting him to do something with a bit more notice might work better? I also liked T's specificity suggestion- try varying the approach until you get success. I realise that's going to mean having to ask him to do stuff a couple more times, which isn't ideal considering he's the one who said he wanted to work on things, so I guess it's something to think about.
I think it might be worth trying not accepting an invitation next time he asks you (unless he asks you to do something amazing for your anniversary- I'm hoping he will and sending vibes round the world to him to do it). Maybe that'll get him a bit confused as I feel he's taking your good graces a bit for granted at the moment......
The other option would be, as you say, to ask him straight out what's going on. I don't think you guys had a conversation about what seeing each other again should look like when you first started going out, did you? (Or maybe I'm losing my memory- sorry if I am!). It just doesn't feel to me, from reading, that there's enough contact going on to constitute a proper dating relationship. It must be so frustrating.
I don't think you'd blow it if you told him you were unsure of whether you want to keep pursuing the R- it's true for a start, and it'd give him the opportunity to step things up. I guess it depends on how much guilt you feel he carries, and how genuine he is in wanting to work on the R/dating thing. If your feeling is that he was genuine in it, I'd definitely give it a try...
Sorry if I'm a bit ambivalent. I'm also confused by his behaviour, especially after he was so amazing in the summer planning that concert and everything.
Originally Posted By: Essie
Do you think that there are is a secret group of CEO's hiding somewhere that will come looking for us soon?
I sincerely hope so, and I hope they're all walking testosterone lollipops ripe for licking who can't get enough of us and pursue us until we can no longer resist!! (So naughty- having one of those days!)
). Do you think that inviting him to do something with a bit more notice might work better? I also liked T's specificity suggestion- try varying the approach until you get success. I realise that's going to mean having to ask him to do stuff a couple more times, which isn't ideal considering he's the one who said he wanted to work on things, so I guess it's something to think about.
