We seem to have recovered our relationship back to "friends" but I don't want things to stop there, although for her this might be as far as she's prepared to go.
I am trying to take my eye off my BIG goal; reconciliation, and concentrate my DBing efforts on the goal which seems more attainable ie ok now we're friends, how can i consolidate that and work to strengthen that friendship to a point where it might be possible to move on a stage - for me wanting to move to reconciliation right now would be a number of stages in one go - like the wright brothers flying to the moon! And while there's an outside chance it might work out it most likely would not. Patience and preparation are key for me here. Also rushing things along would deny me the opportunity of making my changes stick.
There was a poster on this BB called Coach - he kept the Stockdale Paradox in mind when moving back to reconciliation with his W - it might be worth searching him out.
Best - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years
