It is tough to be at home with the memories. I have painted my bedroom, changed the pictures on walls, and I'm planning to do much more. Right now money is on the short side.
My children are very young. They need the security of "home." The memories are a small price to pay. This is the only home they know and Dad is the strong consistant parent right now. My four year old has become so much closer to me. So this helps.
Plus my wife still will not take all of her stuff out of the house to her new apartment. She is actually bringing a few things back. (dresser, microwave) This is a positive. (I think?)
As far as five blocks being to close. Do you think you can handle it? If you like the neighborhood then that is a big plus. It may be tough knowing that she is so close by. This is a choice you really need to take some time and think about.
Do you have to purchase right now? How about renting? It does not surprise me at all that she is looking at houses too. She will change her mind a lot. This is why you should not rush into any big commitments just yet.
Remember do what's best for you. Right now silence when it comes to her may be something to think about. She is not thinking right and the more you show your hand so to speak the easier it is for her. Give her some reasons to really think too. You can be too open with them at times and they will use this against you. It sucks but it happens.
Being friendly and respectful is good however too friendly gives her the idea she can have her cake and eat it too. There is a balance to this. I still struggle to find it at times.
Remember this doesn't mean things are over forever, just different right now, keep your emotions in check and continue to focus on you. These are big decisions, take your time. Think about your sitch. and do what is best for you. Don't do anything out of spite. You are better than that.
Remember as well to be very careful about talking to others, come here. Most people will give advice on how THEY would handle things, not you. MLC is a different ball game and most people don't have a clue, so their advice will not help much. Be confident in yourself you are a very strong person and you will never be given more than you can handle.
I'm praying for you. Take your time and really think. The answers will come.
