I've read some stories in here where there is anoher person either W or H leaves spouse for but laters comes back with orginal spouse for some reason or another. I'm confused by this because how do you know it willn't happen again until the person finds another person they like. I have read on another website "askmen.com" that onces the person W(in my case) leaves her intereset level basically goes down and it's better moving on then trying to work on it because once Interest level is gone no hope bringing it back.

Well these are the preconvinced notions that I have. We have been married for 2 years. Originall wife had broke it off during engament but I called her up and convinced her to stay. Later came to find out her parents also had something to do with convincing her to stay. There is also a Green Card involued which she has gotten and probally will get by using the "Good Faith Marriage". It was wierd i thought at the beginning when wife would e-mail me about the fights we had but I now think it was to build evidence for her case to get the Green Card without me, I can't say that with 100% confidene but I think. Also when I would talk to her about stopping and not filing for D she would cry sometimes and say she has to and that we can't just get along anymore. I did get angry with her during our marriage and use bad language sometimes also had Money issues(me wanting to save and her wanting to spend and her keeping seperate account). Also alot of our family is involued in it plus alot of community. Her uncle is a major a-hole to, I think he is the 1 that is telling her to be strong and not give in and pursue the D. He has some major issues.

Also another thing that frustrates me and all you WAW should take into consideration is that when husband is saying he is doing these things don't still blow him off and get upset if he gets upset that u don't show any appreciation. Because he is doing so many things and u keep saying he isn't doing anything but when he does u still blow him off. Thre is a fine line between been tuff and be totally cruel, remember what comes around goes around so try to be nice to him.

So my questions are. I want to work on this because i'm scared this will happen again (D), we can work on it and make it better, I still have feelings for her, miss being next to her and so many other things. How do I find out that she had real feelings for me and not just the greencard. She bought me presents and stuff but might've just to show hey I tried and stuff. Should I still pursue it or move on, I feel like some loser that keeps wantin her back but i'm ok with that \:\)