WAS - Initiate contact or stay dark?

[MrsJJJ]

Dear Truly,

Reading your situation is like reading mine. Granted, not everything is the same but just being friends, shows no interest, doesn't come over, etc. Unfortunately, I have not seen my husband since mid October. I emailed him maybe two or three weeks ago just to update him on the kids with no reference to the relationship, no mention of how I was, etc. Since then, he has emailed me three times. His reply to my email seemed like the typical response from a MLC; but the next two were requests for me to send him certain papers, while informing me the time frame I have to live in the marital home [he abandoned] since he walked away from the mortgage and is allowing the bank to force a short sale and/or foreclosure. Of course, he made this decision without any concern for my well being or with an attorney telling he could do so. Mind you, he has not asked me for a divorce. Although, I won't go into any details.....my point is....my positive email only gave me emails from him that are not showing any signs of coming home. At the same time, I have not or will not reply to any email that is supporting his choice...which is clearly not mine. I am also not mailing him or helping him in any way shape or form...to encourage his choice to "abandon" me; while leaving me with "his" mess.
If I envy anything is...that you at least were able to see each other which allowed for talking. I'm suppose to be married and still wear my wedding ring, but I'm not even a blink in his eye. Personally, I feel like I was nothing but a joke and something just to pass the time until something better came along.

I'm staying in the dark until "my" husband...the one I married wants to make a positive turn for us. Right now, he is not even the man I married...its like he has no conscience now.

I hope this helped...if not...at least you know you are not alone.