My family knew exactly what was up. My mom called several times in the few days before Thanksgiving (she calls pretty much every day anyway), and each time she would ask, "Is Dan coming for Thanksgiving?" And each time I said, "I don't know. I left it up to him." Got pretty annoying that she kept asking me that....
Suffice it to say when I showed up without him they knew it was b/c he didn't want to come. I didn't have to say anything....
I am pretty annoyed w/H's mom, to be honest. SHE called ME a few days before Thanksgiving and said H told her he wasn't coming to my family celebration. When I asked him about it he got mad and said he never told her that, that he had told her he wasn't sure what he was going to do....Well, Thursday morning while H was still 'deciding', I heard the phone ring. By the time i got upstairs he had hung up. I said, "Who was that?" He said, "My mom." I said, "What did she want?" He said, "She wanted to know if I was coming up there (for his niece's party) or not."
GRRR..........She acted all upset and disappointed in him for not wanting to come to my family celebration, said she told him he needed to go, then she had the nerve to call and see if he was coming up there..........She has been controlling since literally our first date, so it shouldn't surprise me.
I didn't go to his celebration today for his parents. I went for his 85 yr old grandparents, b.c. I love them. And for his uncle whom I also love. And for my kids b/c I didn't want to break it to them on a special day, I have a million other days to do that...
However with my family tomorrow I imagine I will tell the truth if anyone asks why H isn't there, that he didn't want to be there...and I will get the facts to H's family before Christmas if he doesn't do it. I won't be celebrating with them for Christmas, at some point he needs to know what it is to do things without me if that is what he allegedly wants so badly...........
