I can't comment on your ex's motivations, but I still hate to mix business and home or personal. Despite a number of coworkers encouraging me to date "at work" and the opportunities I've had (we have a lot more women working here than men), I have zero interest.
Actually, I have zero interest in dating in general right now. I told "G34" that I'm not going to the holiday party and so no date there. It seems a waste of time to date if I might be moving. Besides, my heart isn't here anyway.
Oh Woog, I think my H just felt like you really. Work and dates I can see might not work. I work in an all female environment so it would never happen for me, but then I,m not sure how it will happen for me and I am not sure its really what I want. I have been alone along time now. You just need time to be.....whatever, sad, content, lovesick... the intensity will pass and you might then be available for companionship now and again even if nothing develops. It wouldn't be a waste to date even if you are moving, its just a date not a lifelong commitment. Just fun, no agenda just 2 people enjoying a much needed light relief from the daily grind. Lots still to play for and the game is far from over so just wait and see. Try to gal whilst waiting tho-lol heard that somewhere before I think.
Hey Woog...I'm with you with the dating stuff....not there yet. However, I hear Vegas offers some "quick / no strings attached" dating. I know it's not the same but we only live once.....You see I have been home 5 minutes and I am already into it (Vegas I mean)!
My kids are with my ex and her boyfriend tonight for the first time. The thought of him entering into their life when I may have to be gone is killing me.
As you know my W introduced someone new to D8 recently....it is tough to swallow at first but it is inevitable. It was a matter of time before it happened. D8 seems to have adapted ok. and tells me continously that she loves me and I am her only dad. Let's just hope that our XW's judgement as to the selection of their new boyfriends is still as good as it was when they hooked up with us! How isthat for a mix of optimism and tooting one's own horn? Hang in there buddy....better days ahead for us all.
I'm here big guy! Theres a lot of change going on for Pisceans, I know...is this damn Uranus (planet of crazy, chaos and change, in Pisces right now) opposite Saturn in the sky...its tearing down of the old structures to make room for the new. I dont know where its all leading, but I can tell you that I feel as 'at sea' as you do, and suffering unrequited love. And yes, its tough tough lessons for us.. Saturn is in Virgo.. symbollically our 'other'..so the lessons are coming through our R's or significant others, or lack of (as Saturn is the planet of lack and limitations!). Thats not to say you have to have lack of love in your life necessarily, but that it seems to be manifesting that way at the moment. But, with Uranus, things can change on a sixpence.
If this sounds bad.. it is... but also, I KNOW it will pass..and it wont be this bad again and I am already a better, more open, loving person for it. Sounds like you are too...
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
