We should be talking about S's life, schedule, routine, discipline, etc if we are going to co-parent, but she says "you just care for him when you have him, and I'll care for him when I have him."
If I were you I would try to keep her informed about your S and what's going on with him re: illnesses, appointments, special activities, (like when my D has a performance or whatever that H might want to attend), etc. In my state if you limit access or info to the child, my L and C have told me that is looked as a negative.
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In the past I tried to reason with her... D is hard on children. He will have issues later in life, etc. She just said "He will turn out fine - I will make sure of it."
Unfortunately, she may not be able to cure depression. Just the typical bull they spout sometimes. Glad you stopped trying to "educate" her. I did that too, trying to use logic and I've tried to stop that totally. They have these fuzzy, foggy brains and logic and reason don't seem to penetrate the fog.
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I wasn't as cooperative as she would have liked because I don't like debt and don't have the sense of entitlement that most in their mid-20's have.
It sounds like you were being a responsible person with the finances, not a miser or anything. It was her choice to get involved with an alcoholic to "improve" her life. I think she will discover that there are serious drawbacks to that, you can't tell her she will discover for herself.
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At this point I'm almost more angry about what she is doing to our S. Lately he seems to be depressed.
My S is depressed too. Saying stuff like marriage just ends in divorce and adultery so he will never get married. And other stuff like that. That to me is the worst part of this is that it's hurting my kids. My H emailed me a couple weeks ago that he thinks the D is helping everyone. I still waste too much sometimes trying to reason with him; it really is a waste though. Karen
