Well, all I can say is "Thank the Lord", Tal - your H seems to recognize the wake-up call for what it is. But don't let him off the hook just yet. And don't feel too bad about contacting the L, because if he hadn't snapped to after that, then you would be needing the services of a L anyway -- know what I mean?
Originally Posted By: Sara
You both need to learn to control what you say to each other.
I think saying enough of everything is what's required -- and that includes the hot-headed words too. We all need to be as open and candid with our spouses as we can be -- short of being mean-spirited of course -- because suppressing honest emotions from the other will only work for so long.
I wish I had not been so cowardly as to have held my tongue so long from my W. Sheepish attempts to "spare" my spouse from my angst never works for long. Eventually the pent-up emotions have to come out -- and then it becomes more than sharing, it becomes detrimental.
That's why we're advised to not let the sun go down on our anger.
(I also wish my W had been even half as tolerant of opposing opinion and vented words as she prided herself in being. While W thinks the least little argument between a married couple spells doom for the R, I, on the other hand, expect there to be conflict in even the best of relationships, and if there is a lack then that is an indication of something seriously wrong itself.)
((((Tal)))), I really hope this is the start of getting your M back on course; it sure looks very promising to me.
