Is she is or is she ain't (my baby)?

[forward]

Sleeper, your wife has a way to go. She has not had to face the consequences of her actions. You probably do need to finish the divorce.

And you probably do need to go dim--for yourself.

I think you have had a lot of positive signs. She is very attached to you and unwilling to really let go. If you were to behave like a real divorced couple, she would likely be very upset.

If you go dim, you can say it is healthier for you. Because it is. You will not be paying attention to every little thing she does.

Hand the phone to the kids. Tell her you are not mad but you are moving on with your life and you feel it is best to have contact only on critical matters.

You have had a lot of progress; I wouldn't let this upset you too much, but it does seem that it is time to change your approach.