Ever since I found out for sure that OM was the OM for sure, I have done very well going dark. W and I have nothing to talk about since we split everything up in July. We should be talking about S's life, schedule, routine, discipline, etc if we are going to co-parent, but she says "you just care for him when you have him, and I'll care for him when I have him." In the past I tried to reason with her... D is hard on children. He will have issues later in life, etc. She just said "He will turn out fine - I will make sure of it."
After trying over and over to "educate" her, I've been told many times here that it will not work and isn't worth my time. And, it only pisses me off more. So I have stopped all that.
I think their relationship will deteriorate as well, but I want my family together - and I'm not sure that it will happen even if OM and her don't work out.
Everyone tells me W is saying she is D and doesn't mention S. They can tell something is funny with their relationship, and the people that know my W and OM know she is only in it for the money. My W needs someone to take care of her.
I wasn't as cooperative as she would have liked because I don't like debt and don't have the sense of entitlement that most in their mid-20's have.
At this point I'm almost more angry about what she is doing to our S. Lately he seems to be depressed. He'll be 2 in Feb, and he seems to be sleeping a ton and hasn't been eating as well as he has the last few months. I could be paranoid, but he has been acting different. Overall, he is a very happy and intelligent little boy. Which is great - but W thinks that just justifies that she isn't hurting anyone with what she is doing.
