Btw, did I mention my L spent the 2 hours with me she said "off the clock" on her holiday today? Sometimes I wish she was a little less involved, but she seems to have taken a deep interest in my case. She says a lot that my H pisses her off and stuff. He does that to me too!:) She has kind of a gruff, abrasive personality, but I think she does with everyone, and has actually been helping me out a great deal, so interesting and I do appreciate what she and others have done to help me out this past year. Karen
Hi Karen I wanted to check in with you, I appreciate your advice Ive been hovering for a long time anyway I'm long winded and that is why I flutter but never light so here I go again Bottom line is I wanted to say thank you & don't give up on me L
Me 46/H 48 M 19/T 20 S 16 D 9 Bomb 2/9/08 OW 2/29/08 Ended A 3/12/08 (LIAR)
I would never give up on you. I hope you will keep posting here if you like. You know I'm about to D and some others here, and we never give up on each other (our WAS maybe, but not each other).
Ok, need more advice. Keeping in mind that my H is an L and keeps my emails to use against me I guess, here is his email today: i don't understand your reaction to the kids getting evaluated at fsu. we discussed it way more often than ot and unlike you i am telling you about it and involving you...i found out because they called me by mistake. anyway i am concerned you will just not show up with the kids so i will pick them up at 7:45am Tuesday morning(my day) you are still welcome and i encourage you come to the testing and or submit the paperwork. as i said your lawyer indicated that was a great idea. i have no idea why you feel you need to talk to her prior to committing to the testing for your kids but that's your choice. i did not utilize the school system as you voiced your objections to that so again why the opposition? OK, need to respond to that b/c I don't want to have a long heated convo tomorrow in front of the kids. Here's my first draft:
When you gave me the paperwork the other night, I said I would need to discuss it with my attorney. Since that might affect our legal situation, talking to the attorney about that seems reasonable to me. I will check it out Monday and talk to my lawyer and get her legal advice about it. I saw her yesterday and she did say she hadn't agreed to it. She said she wouldn't do that without discussing with me first which she hadn't done. I do appreciate you not trying to do a public school eval. When we had it done before it was almost a full year for their testing and report, and they would prob. have a hard time being unbiased and neutral re: their own school system! Thanks again! Also if I consent to the evaluation and my lawyer agrees to that, no need for you to drive to (my town). I can drive them there no problem. OK, do you think that's ok or any changes. I did avoid the whole I didn't tell him about the OT stuff b/c that's just an outright lie I have already told him several times so realize that's a cheeseless tunnel? Did I leave any others in there or what do you think??? Karen
You have expressed the reasons, specifically I might add, as to why you initially responded in the manner that you did. You have validated his concerns on the subject as well show appreciation to him for not using the PS eval. If it your L agrees that it is a good idea; you're going to save him the trouble of going out of his way to get the kids.
I see no problem here. It's all facts and nothing more, nothing less.
Thanks! I am seriously thinking about taking out the part about my L not agreeing to it although H said she did. Maybe it was just a misunderstanding, but I think it might come off like I think he lied or something (even though that may be true of course) but I don't want to sound like I am thinking he would actually (gasp) lie to me... Karen
I think it is fine to leave it in. That will clarify any misunderstandings. You are not coming right out and saying he is/was lying but bringing it up to clarify. I haven't gotten Hancock yet, I tried to get it today but they are totally out. Hopefully I will get it Tuesday.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Thanks Kat!!! I'm waiting for ya, whenever you get it is fine with me; I know you've waited for me before (remember when they sent it to H???), unlike some people here anyway.... Just kidding, I enjoy giving you a hard time H4H! Karen
You have expressed the reasons, specifically I might add, as to why you initially responded in the manner that you did. You have validated his concerns on the subject as well show appreciation to him for not using the PS eval. If it your L agrees that it is a good idea; you're going to save him the trouble of going out of his way to get the kids.
I see no problem here. It's all facts and nothing more, nothing less.
Tom
Yep, that's my take on it and my intent on writing the email. But he's a control freak so I betcha when he gets that he will hit the roof over it!!! Karen
Karen