Another wife hit by the bomb #3

[The Wifey]

(((Tawnya)))

Hey honey, I had a couple of R convo's with H over the last weekend and last night. We have to take a step away.

I realized that unless my H plans to pack my things, rent me an apartment, and move everything - that I am in my home to stay. : )

I don't know that this is very DB, but it is something that I feel strongly.

For all of my h's talk about separation, he is still here. I made it really easy for him by moving out for 2 months, but I was absolutely miserable. And did it improve anything in our R. NO! It only made it too easy for him.

You are so right. If he wants you to write anything out of what you want, how about I want to stay married and live up to the vows we declared before God, family & friends.

It is not our job to make it easier for them.

[lost_in_space]

((((Tawnya))))

Wifey hit what I was going to say. You have been through my sitch. I am where both you and Wifey are. If our spouses want out, LET THEM GO but by God we will not make it easy for them.

I have been told that if we do cooperate, it adds that much more justification to what they are doing. Kind of like "well, my H/W is so agreeable, they must want this too... Must be ok" Do not give them that.


Keep fighting for what is right for you! K!

[VeronicaV]

Tawnya,

I am sorry, you seemed to have a rough go of it today. I put that link in there for the exact reason you mentioned. It is inspiring and I read it when I am feeling like there is little chance.

As weird as it is that they all seem to read from the same script, I find comfort in that. Because if they say the same stupid, daft, mean things when they go, then maybe there is a chance they will come back, just as the others in that link have.

I saw Four Christmases. It was pretty funny. I really like Vince Vaughan. I think he is very funny and he reminds me of one of my brothers back home (VV is a fellow Chicagoan).

Hang in there honey.

Beth

[Tawnya]

{{Wifey}} I like that and will have to do that..I have said that to my hub many a times..so I may just have to do that if I have to write something down at a later date THANK YOU for that!

{{Lost}} I agree..I don't plan to be DIFFICULT, but I am NOT going to make it easy in any way, shape, or form! Thank you for stopping by

{{Beth}} You are right..it always makes me think how crazy it is that they all say the same thing, sometimes almost word for word..so I agree it does give you something to hang on to! Glad you saw a funny movie, I like Vince Vaughn ok, but I do like Reese Witherspoon..so I may have to go see that

Hope you all have a good day..I'm off to work in a bit from 7:30-5 so ugh..I'd much rather still be in my bed asleep LOL!

Tawnya

[Tawnya]

Well today was a good and bad day too

Work was CRAZY..which was good..but I had a headache, which was bad (LOL..thus the good and bad scenarios I had today)..

My daughter called me and said she wanted to take me to dinner (which was VERY sweet and good) and then when I got home, found out my dog had "messed" (to put it nicely) in his crate, and then walked out of his crate and got it all over the floor..that would be the BAD..to come home after work when I'm ready to go eat with daugher and have to clean and shampoo the carpets

The rest of the night was good tho..daughter and I had FUN..we are silly together..it's nice having a daughter age 17 who is like a "friend daughter" LOL..we went to eat dinner and then went to Krispy Kreme afterwards..

So..tho my daughter won't read this, I'm so thankful to her for helping me GAL that she probably has no idea

Tawnya

[marriedCrazy]

Krispy Kreme for dessert...Yumm!!

Was the HOT sign on?

[Tawnya]

Tom..OH you betcha it was

Can you say YUMMO?

Tawnya