I know you guys celebrate Thanks giving but what is it all about ?
Let me try and remember what they taught me in elementary school.
There was a religious sect of people that landed in Plymouth, Massachusetts in 1620 after sailing from England. History somehow writes the story of Thanksgiving as a celebration that started between those early "Pilgrims" and local indigenous Indians. They were celebrating collaboration between the two peoples.
That's how I recall it. Anyone who knows more, please help me answer.
The kids and I went to my sister's on the night before Thanksgiving. My mom came as well. My BIL and I went out and had a great time. It was a good bonding night for us; as we have never really spent any time together before last night. We plan to get together more often.
W said that she would pass through the house to take care of the petting zoo while we were gone overnight. My original plans were to be back in town by 5pm so that her family could see the kids today. Got a text from W telling me that there was no need to rush back because there was a change in their plans. So I replied great, thanks for letting me know. Then the W wanted to know if I was planning on staying overnight again. I told her no, that we would be back at some point because I need to take care of the dogs tonight and would you get them during the day.
She replied that she would. So 15 minutes later I get a text from her stepfather saying that he was at my house and wanted to know where the dog food was. So that was the W's way of helping with the animals; get someone else to do it. At least I know that it got done.
On my way back into town, she called and basically asked where we were. Then I asked what she was doing; she said that she was taking her grandfather back to his house. She went to Thanksgiving at her Dad's. So I asked what she was doing after dropping off her grandfather. Basically, I was trying to get her to tell me if she was coming to the house or not. Not that I wanted her too; but wanted to know if I needed to brace for the visit. She said that she had to go by dysfunctional BFF to get her stuff; but she didn't actually say if she was coming or not. Well, she didn't and I was happy about that.
But she never asked how the kids were doing; she did ask if we had fun. I'm not sure if she meant if the kids and I had fun or if she was referring to my night out with BIL. Doesn't matter, the answer is yes to both and that was my reply. I didn't tell her anything of what we did. But went to 2 local brew pubs and had some great food and awesome beer. Even caught the eye of a couple of young ladies. Did nothing with it; but it's nice to be noticed. I did dress up a bit. My BIL was like, "Why?" My mom said "He's fishing." I just said that I like to look nice when I go out.
I just don't understand why a mother wouldn't even WANT to be with her kids on a holiday; even if it's for a couple of hours. I just don't get it. I told a friend of mine that maybe I've been blessed with this situation; because unlike most men in these forums, I HAVE my kids. She could've been more "normal" and taken them away from me as well. But I've been blessed in that accord. I cherish every minute I have with them.
{{{Tom}}} You are right, I don't get it either, but you are also right in that you are VERY blessed to have them and be the main parent for them..they are very BLESSED to have you as well
I'm glad you had a great time, you definitely need it my friend!
Tawnya
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I received a text from the W tonight detailing that she has to work tomorrow night until 10pm. She said that she might be home late tomorrow night or Sunday AM to put up the Christmas tree with the kids.
You know Karen; it gets easier over time. It's just that she seems to think that the kids and I are just sitting around waiting for her to make a presence. I'm just seeing no need to bother with a response; I can't believe what she tells me anyway.
omg tom! this is not the week to read how your thanksgiving was from my end at all! seriously, i want to give her a reality check, she wants a bad guy, she can have mine lol!
hope you are well, and ofcourse i clarified the alt world lol!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
I am at the point where I don't want to spend time with her; I don't know how that explains my need to wonder if she'll come back. But I'm in a good place; I just think it's sad that she chooses to miss out on the best thing in life, your kids. Ya know?
This is telling of the effect it is had on my D, she was gathering up pennies off of my end table today. She said that she was going to give them to mommy so that she could buy toys. I asked her, "You don't want to leave them for daddy, so can he buy toys?" She replied, "No, Daddy YOU buy food, mommy buys toys. You don't buy toys."
