So when are you going to celebrate? Or will you have your own party by relaxing? My ex is taking the kids Friday since he can't seem to get anything planned out ahead if time. Oh well I guess a little time for me to get caught up. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Feeling great today, H took the kids to his folks and I have peace and quiet for a couple of days. Feeling like I will get a lot done around here. Also don't have to cook or clean! Just going to do stuff for me.
Lyn
That sounds wonderful (the no cooking or cleaning part)! Stuff for you sounds good too. Hope you're having a Happy Thanksgiving!!! Karen
Back again hoping some of those out there can tell me how you handled the end. That's what we just decided, I'm sadly not as heart broken as I thought would be I know I'm no saint but I do try to admit my faults he feels no wrongdoing at all and he's mad that I even brought it up. So this long hopefully someone will bear with me and tell ms how do I tell my children? ? ?
Me 46/H 48 M 19/T 20 S 16 D 9 Bomb 2/9/08 OW 2/29/08 Ended A 3/12/08 (LIAR)
I am so sorry Lyn. I don't know why these things always seem to happen around the holidays, perhaps the extra stress. Before you say anything to your kids you need to take a day or two and calm down. You and your H should do this together and you should both agree on how to tell them.
They probably already know that things were not going so well. Take care of yourself now. Don't beat yourself up over what might have been or should have been, all you have is what is. Know that you tried and have done all that you could. hugs.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I'm sorry too!!! I agree with everything Kat said. Yes, and def. tell the kids with both of you there. My H had the talk with the kids when I was out and that's not a good way to do it!!!
I do think you have done everything possible, and you can hold your head up high, that you fought for your marriage and kids and did everything you could. Your H can't do the same. My L was saying eventually my H will have to have guilt over that (I guess unless they're total sociopaths) and no need for you to have any!!! And it really is easier than you think. Sometimes I think once you drop the rope or whatever you want to call it, it's a lot easier and less stressful. ((((Lyn))))
Karen