Thank you so much for that information! Man, it really helps to hear from a man with depression. I do not have depression and it is very hard for me to understand how it feels from inside the depressed mind.
My H has said very similar things ... "I do not believe in psychology." "How does it help to have someone repeat back what I just said and then ask me how I feel about it."
By tough love, are you suggesting that I stay the course I am on - no initiating contact, only responding when H reaches out?
Thanks again for the insight and sharing something about yourself to help me. It really means a lot to me.