I have been wrestling with this one for a couple of weeks and would love some input please.
Pretty positive H is depressed (as you all know by now). I have been applying LRT/no initiating contact since 10.21.08 with some positive results. DB wisdom says keep doing what's been working (though now have gone two weeks w/o a word from H, so I start to wonder if LRT is still working). DB coach suggested I might see a retreat from H after a positive meeting as it will freak him out to realize he might still have feelings for me. Not sure that happened, but who knows.
Books on handling people w/ depression advise reaching out to the person to offer plans/activities - the idea being that the depressed person, as his depression spirals downward will withdraw more and more, making him less and less likely to reach out. Problem is, the books do not really address my sitch, a spouse who has left his wife and is depressed. Not sure how much of the advice will help.
Have tried the gut check and it comes up blank. I am currently following the "when unsure of what to do, do nothing approach."
