I just got off of the phone with BG. It has been one hell of a week and it is not one likely to be forgotten by any of us for a long long time. But I don't know if I have ever said this before and I think it bears saying.
Yes you all know I had an affair years and years ago. Yes my H has had 4 (EA, PA?). Do not let what has happened this week ruin Thanksgiving for you. My H's first A was revealed to me 3 weeks to the day after our wedding. It had been going on (if it was ever really going on, I still don't know exactly) and was discovered before the wedding and that is why several of my "Friends" ended up not coming at the last minute. We have been married 12 years. In 12 years, I have celebrated one anniversary. I alwasy acknowledge with a card, but beyond that nothing. To the point that I have actually told H, that day means nothing. Our real anniversary is the day of our first date. I can only imagine how that makes him feel. Every year for me to remind him of what he did. Was the timing right? Absolutly not. But I should have let go of it a long time ago.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
